From Fear or Love

The preceding entry indicated that the decision to look for the beauty/good/value (and thus feel affection) or look for the corruption/imperfection (and thus extinguishing or preventing feelings of affection) in an object or person is made before you look.

I think this decision is made based on whether we are looking from fear or from love. Are we looking with a spirit of fear or a spirit of love. If you are looking at the imperfections then deep down you are primarily motivated in the unconscious mind (the heart) by the spirit of fear. You are afraid of something and therefore just as 'love casts out fear' so fear casts out love (or the affection component of love).

A consistent attitude of love is necessary to always look for the beauty/good/value in others. We must strip ourselves of all fear. Fear causes us to look for reasons not to connect; to not be intimate with the object or person of our affection. If we see beauty we will connect through feelings of affection unto fulfilling our erotic need for union. If we see corruption (imperfection) we will be prevented from intimate connection and thus fulfill our fearfulness.

What are some of the fears? Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of being seen or perceived, fear of being hurt, fear of incest, fear of the opinions of others, fear of being seen as inferior, fear of our weaknesses being exposed, etc.

The fears I am talking about are the irrational fears we develop when we are young. Healthy fear in the moment of danger or from perceiving a real threat is fine, it is the fear that prevents us from pursuing appropriate intimate connection with people that is the problem. We must search our unconscious mind and meditate on any fear we find until it shifts and matures. If we can do this our hearts will open up to a far greater life of affection and passion.

I suspect we are always looking from a spirit of fear or a spirit of love. Happiness comes from always looking from a spirit of love. Lester Levenson discovered this. Google him and read his story!

What spirit is affecting your attitude right now as you read this? If you are not feeling love then you are probably being governed by a fear at this very moment. If so, meditate on the fear or the emptiness until it shifts.

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