This is a review and the addition of one more element, the emotion generated when the need for union is being satisfied.
1. Affection is the emotion you feel when you perceive someone or something of value, beauty or meaning to you.
2. This affection causes the need for union (Eros) to kick in and to produce desire. Desire is simply the urge to unite. I have mentioned “erotic” desire but I am thinking that erotic desire and desire are the same thing. Is there are desire that is not the urge to unite; the urge for greater intimacy?
3. We then engage in activities to accomplish union (greater intimacy) such as talking, listening, kissing, reading, thinking, eating, smelling, touching, etc. which produces pleasure.
Pleasure is the emotion we feel as we accomplish union with something of value to us or in other words, as we satisfy the primary need. Passion is the emotion we feel when we are accomplishing union with something of great value to us. Just a side note: the things that are greatest in value are things that are sacred to us.
Because of misunderstanding we think we are obtaining fulfillment from the nature of the thing valued when it is simply that we have put into the object of our affection the need for union or in other words we have allowed our need for union to be satisfied by the object of value. The pleasure isn’t really in the thing itself but rather in the fulfilling of our need for union.
We think that the pleasure we receive from eating something that tastes good is from the taste itself, but this is not true. The pleasure comes from the accomplishment of union with a food that we value highly because of the taste. We have allowed ourselves to be satisfied (our need for union to be satisfied) by the particular food. The better the taste the more we allow our need for union to be satisfied and it follows that we feel greater pleasure.
The nature of the fulfillment (pleasure/passion) is colored by what is valued but the pleasure is actually generated by the satisfaction of the need for union.
This blog contains my ideas regarding affection and other related emotions. Feelings or the lack of them, have occupied much of my attention most of my life. I have had some success in changing my own capacity for affection and so I feel I have something of value to share. I will share with you my definitions of affection, emotion, eros and other feelings. These definitions are not the norm. I will also write about what I believe is the foundation of affection and passion.
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