The Critical Question

There are few questions more important than how we choose to satisfy Eros, the one imperative need. How I satisfy Eros will determine if I am a concert pianist, a couch potato, a mass murderer, a nobel prize winner, etc.

What we put our need for union into is what we spend most of our time doing. To a degree the expression “follow your bliss” is really just saying follow what you feel will satisfy Eros the most.

I suspect that those who are most successful in any given field of endeavor are those who put most of their need for union into that field. This becomes their passion. But what determines what we choose to put our need for union into. What will satisfy Eros most?

To answer to this vital question we need to go back to the main topic of this blog, affection.

What is the response to a feeling of affection? In previous posts I stated that I believe we first see something we value and then we feel an affection. What follows affection is the desire for greater intimacy. Another word for intimacy is union. Intimacy consists of activities that accomplish greater union. Desiring greater intimacy means we want to be more connected to the object of our affection. We want to touch, kiss, drive, buy, study, taste, eat, smell in an attempt to become one with it.