How do we determine what is sexual versus what is erotic? It’s simpler than you think. Just look at where the feeling is coming from: chest = erotic, loins = sexual. This is how I discovered that there was a difference between erotic and sexual, by noticing that they came from two different locations in my body. I cannot emphasize the importance of this distinction enough.
If it is true, it reconciles those who say we must be chaste with those who say we must be more intimate. They can both be right. Sexual always begins with erotic but erotic does not have to lead to sexual expression. Sexual is always erotic. Erotic is not necessarily sexual.
The warm affection which we feel for the physical body of another is initially not sexual, regardless of the age or gender of the person. Once we understand this important distinction we have greater control over our expressions of intimacy.
The lines between what is proper in our expressions of affection and what is not become clearer when we can clearly identify the distinctions between affection, erotic desire and sexual desire
This blog contains my ideas regarding affection and other related emotions. Feelings or the lack of them, have occupied much of my attention most of my life. I have had some success in changing my own capacity for affection and so I feel I have something of value to share. I will share with you my definitions of affection, emotion, eros and other feelings. These definitions are not the norm. I will also write about what I believe is the foundation of affection and passion.
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